Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

May 23, 2008, 1:24 pm

wow!

You are definetly dealing with alot right now.

Just remember that there are always oppeople who care for you and would hate if you left.

SMILE!

April 24, 2008, 12:52 am

u got a lot on ur plate to deal with hun..I know u've been thru what is quite possibly the most disempowering experience of ur life i.e. "ur assault" however u've managed to at least begin to crawl outta the abyss u were in & make a stab at normality again which is more than admirable..I don't know if ur physical illness now is totally based on ur unsure relationship with ur boyfriend however u're doing something which many if not most of us have done..which is tie up ur complete happiness & selfworth in one person..I'm not criticizing u for that however u must be responsible for ur own happiness & worth in life as its not fair either to u or anyone ur involved with to do otherwise..I'm paraphrasing here but read this once "when 2 halves come together they do not make a whole..but when 2 wholes come together they make a union which is perfect love"..be strong

April 23, 2008, 11:49 pm

I'm so sorry you are feeling this way....i remember the pain i felt toward the end of my previous marriage.....but things do find a way to work out......I think LadyRaines had it right...you do need to lean on God at this time.  Relationships are so hard to be in at times, let alone having ocd on top of it.  Hang in there...if you need to talk.....we are here for you.  One thing I have learned.....people with ocd are very compassionate towards others....we all go through what seems like unbearable times....but there is always hope....don't ever give up on that.

April 23, 2008, 10:50 pm

oh sister, sounds like you need some major prayer, now as far as the situation with your boyfriend, sounds like you need to sit boyfriend down and express to him that part of being in a relationship is meeting the needs of the person whom you are with , explain to him that there are deal breakers , it doesn't matter how many mytakes you yourself has made, but you don't deserve to be belittled, torn down mentally and emotionally . Honey you to speak up for yourself and let him know that if he can't be that man of god who loves you, respects you, and cares for your all over welbeing that you don't need to be together if he isn't going to own his behavor. Fact of the matter is you don't deserve for any man to put you down, belittle you mentally and emotionally , I don't care how much you love them , your 21 you have your whole life ahead of you.Now if you two are really truely meant to be together, then god will bring you back together, maybe right now god feels that it's just not the best time for you to be together simply because god isn't a part of your relationship for you or your boyfriend and I'll tell you from experence if god isn't apart of your relationship, your relationship will fail . I know personally , the man whom i've been with for 71/2 all together , the first time we were together, from 2001- 2003 didn't last all because of his addiction with crack cocaine, and , now I'll be honest I wasn't exzactly being miss innocent either, I screwed arround on him because I didn't feel that my emotional needs were being met plus the fact that I felt like chose his addiction over our relationship, so we were doomed from the begining, we ended up breaking up for 18 months and then in 2005 we started talking to each other, slowly started hanging out, we started working on old issues and trying to get the kinks out from the past, that took about a year 1/2, then we started going to church and when we finally surrender our hearts to god, we started to see things from a different angel, now our relationship is far from perfect considering the fact that my long term boyfriend Jr is ADHD, OCD along with the fact that me myself am ADD , to say the least it's challanging. Fact of the matter is you can't fix the problem until you acknowlage the problem . Truth of the matter is you need to have a relationship with god before you can have a relationship with some one else. Just know if you take all your negative situations or circumstances and turn it all over to god and his glory , he'll bless you. I know right now that is hard for you to see as far as from how your feeling at the moment in time but trust me you'll see. I'll be praying for you , peace be with you.

April 23, 2008, 9:14 pm

I feel like I could've written this...well at least before my knee surgery. 

Tuts. You have to demand the treatment you deserve. Because one) you are woman and let's hear you roar and two) if he's treating you like this now...he's definitely not going to be treating you better if you let it keep going on. He might be the guy for you, but he's definitely not acting like it if he's treating you poorly. Sometimes things need to fall apart before they fall back together better...or...they fall apart because there is something bigger and better out there. Either way, you're going to get through this and be ok.

I was caught up in wanting to disappear and feeling like I couldn't get past it...I even thought I wanted a baby. But honestly...it was because I felt lonely and wanted that companionship thing.

Take care of yourself first. Then you'll be happier with you and other people. Maybe everything will work out with your boyfriend. If they don't then you'll find someone new =] &that'll be an ADVENTURE!! The kind spunky, beautiful, intelligent 21 year old girls have.