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I am 22 my name is shannon. I have suffered with ocd since i was 9. It deminishes my quality of life. I live with parents. I work at tesco. I really need people who undestand me


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November 2, 2013, 9:16 am
Happy Birthday!!!!!! I hope you're okay. Have a great day, Shannon. :)

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'decide that you want it more than you are afraid of it.'
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November 2, 2013, 4:29 am
Hey happy bday bud

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i dont know how yet. but i wil defeat this ocd
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May 6, 2013, 11:27 am
Hello!! How have you been lately? I'm doing pretty fine myself. I'm still able to manage my OCD without taking any medication so that is a good thing, even if it does get hard sometimes, I'm not gonna lie... I'm happy that you're gonna be able to get in touch with a OCD psychiatrist, that's a good thing!! :) Ah, I understand. This used to be a big problem for me, and it still is. My OCD type is mainly Pure O however, so my rituals are invisible (they're in my head), but I know the anxiety feeling when you get worried about why people might think of you... it sucks. Well, if people don't tell you anything, I know it's easy to say, but try to not worry too much about it, they don't know anything about you and they don't know your story. Are your rituals really noticeable? Take care, and keep fighting :).

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'decide that you want it more than you are afraid of it.'
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March 28, 2013, 10:26 am
Hello! Sorry for the delay, had a very busy week and busy month!! :) How are you doing? Seems like we have the same kind of OCD aka hypermorality OCD... hard to deal with, I have to admit. I'm doing the best I can. I recognized myself a lot in your message, so yeah, feel free to talk to me anytime you want as well!! :)

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'decide that you want it more than you are afraid of it.'
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February 17, 2013, 12:12 am
first off, very little disturbs me. My ex was a narcissist so I have seen and heard it all and then some. Ok, well what you said fills in a lot. Get yourself back on that wait list. It might be a long wait but in 4 years or 4 months, you'll still benefit from having better med adjustments. Meds make the other work easier, as you probably know. I am very glad you have had the support of a therapist. Do you deal with just the basic CBT & ERP type stuff or does she work from other angles too? I am interested in whether she is open-minded and might be willing to have a go at something new with you. If you think she might be, then I can forward you some books and stuff to go find. I can also ask my own therapist for a recommendation on reading for your therapist. When I began with him he was as tighty-whitey CBT as you could get. We'd bicker about it actually. CBT techniques for OCD are modified and those are fine, but straight vanilla CBT I had issues with... and I know my theory. So, he earned his pay in the early days. Anyway, that is off track. If she is open to some new stuff then I will send what I can. CBT has some inherent limitations in some ways... but the reason it is so widely used and popular is that it does work well in many instances, but it is also easily quantified and insurance companies like that... as do government accountants. Problem is, that for people with disorders like OCD, the real problem is not as clean and neat as all that. Yep, you might be able to break basic compulsive habits in X number of sessions.. but what about all the adaptations they've developed while living with this? What about all the ways it has shaped their overall thinking and emotional states? CBT requires a "just do it" sort of approach, which remains valid, but for many of us we just fail before we get that far... or, like you, remain in a low to moderate depression. It is fine to handle the external compulsions, but all that messy emotional internal stuff... needs something more.

How likely are you to read things I suggest? No point in doing so if you are unlikely to read it.

And... I guess I should ask... how much do you want to make change happen and stick? Like how bad do you want this "happiness" you say is missing? Bad enough to let go of things that make you feel secure and unravel a bit? I ask that because to make a major shift we have to want it bad enough to go to places that scare us. I have found myself many times feeling as though nothing made sense any more and like the world beneath my feet was going to implode. You might not experience it that way, but you might. So you need to want it enough to hang on when you believe you can't.

we;re funny creatures... we want to be happy and be well but we find the comforting familiarity of our torment soothing... and we push back against losing it.

Are you willing to be anxious and uncomfortable? I won't suggest anything that would cause you real harm... but your mind will think so anyway.

It might not seem possible but happiness is quite often the outcome of a set of attitudes and beliefs... a series of choices and perspectives. It doesn't mean you choose to feel this way, more like we fail to choose not to be.

so.. tell me... you said ocd undermines your efforts to be happy... telling you it will fall apart, etc. Can you tell me more about it? Like... examples. What sort of things do you want that OCD says you can't have?

and homework

1) talk to your therapist about what I'd said... if she is open to reading a few things and giving something new a go

2) explain what you mean about the thing about OCD saying things won't work out

3) this part isn't to give me... do it but keep it entirely for your use. Set it aside and look at it often once done. I want you to make a couple of lists. The first one is a list of things you think you would be, have or be doing with your life if you did not have ocd. So, nothing else about you would be different, you just would not have ocd. Next, make a list of anything and everything about yourself that you think is positive. And third, make a list of all the things in your life for which you are actively grateful. I may ask you to share some things on the lists but they are tools.

righto... have fun

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