We
all
know
that
a
common
symptom
of
OCD
among
straight
folk
is
that
they
worry
they
might
be
gay.
But
do
any
of
us
queer
folk
have
the
opposite
worry?
I
sometimes
get
nervous
that
I'm
not
actually
gay,
that
I'm
somehow
straight
even
though
I've
known
I'm
gay
since
I
was
twelve.
Anyone
else
worry
about
this?
-------------------------------------------------------------- just because you're paranoid don't mean they aren't after you
hi,
hope
people
don't
mind
me
posting
here,
maybe
my
ocd
led
me
here,
(??)ha,
but
yeah,
I
can
totally
relate
to
this.
The
mind
is
so
bizarre.
I
am
a
pretty
androgenous
girl
(which
is
characteristic
of
the
Add/adhd
tomboy,
me!)
and
my
close
friends
were
bi/androgeneous
growing
up
and
I
dated
bi
guys
in
hs.
/
women;
trans
guys
in
college,
etc. I
do
spend
a
lot
of
time
wondering
which
category
I
belong
in
because
I
think
about
it
too
much,
etc.But
really,
I
have
never
identified
with
the
label
straight
and
when
my
best
friend
came
out
as
bi
in
hs I
was
totally
confused.
I'm
like
wait,
but
if
you're
bi
does
that
mean
i'm
bi
too,
etc.
I
think
it
is
in
fact
a
rather
fine
line
sometimes & For
someone
with
pure
-O
tendencies
like
me,
it's
enough
to
really
drive
you
nuts,
ha.
Well
anyway,
I'm
married
with
a
kid
now
and
that
works
for
me
but
I
still
miss
being
with
women/trans
people,
etc.
and
maybe
someday
I
will
be.
I
hope
this
makes
some
sense.
And
I
don't
want
to
offend
people
by
minimizing
the
gay/straight
divide,
because
it
is
a
chasm
at
times.
But
just
saying
there
are
alot
of
degrees
to
the
issue
that
make
things
confusing
to
those
of
us
with
ocd,
so
good
luck
with
it
all,
it
was
interesting
to
read
your
post:)
-------------------------------------------------------------- Librarian Who Thinks Too Much
hi...i
have
known
i
was
a
lesbian
since
i
was
about
11
(so
19
years),
i've
been
married
to
the
same
awesome
woman
for
the
last
12
years,
and
in
my
panicky
moments,
i
have
definitely
had
this
obsessive
thought.
thankfully,
it
is
one
of
my
less
often
occurring
ones,
but
yes...
-------------------------------------------------------------- oh to clean up the clutter of echoes/coming in and out of focus/words spoken/like locusts/sing and sing/in my head...-ani difranco
Yeah,
I
get
this
a
lot,
enough
to
create
an
account
on
this
to
post
it.
I'm
a
17
year
old
lesbian,
with
OCD
(mainly
fears
of
contamination, everything
has
to
be
clean,
etc).
I
went
through
a
phase
before
coming
out
where
I
felt
like
I
had
to
prove
I'm
gay,
I
watched a
lot
of
porn
and
became
addicted
to
it
because
of
the
validation
it
gave
me,
and
I
had
intrusive
thoughts
about
it
to
the
point
where
I
wanted
to
bash
my
head
to
shut
it
up.
And
they've
come
back
as
of
late.
All
of
this
leads
me
to
believe
I
have
some
form
of
HOCD,
but
the
thing
is
it
really
does
feel
natural
to
like
girls,
and
I've
never
had
any
serious
feelings
for
guys.
I'm
led
to
believe
I'm
gay
but
have
a
very
mild
OCD
about
heterosexuality...
Or
is
it
completely
normal
to
worry
I
might
be
straight
even
though
my
feelings
point
to
being
a
lesbian?
Hello,
i've
wondered
about
this
in
the
past
as
well
and
think
its
one
of
the
reason
why
i
identify
myself
as
bisexual
rather
than
being
a
lesbian.
I
have
always
known
i
was
sexually
attracted
to
females
but
I started
to
have
feelings for
one
particular
boy
in
high
school,
thus
redifining
my
sexuality. At
the
time
it
didn't
bother
me,
i
just
identified
as
bisexual
leaning
toward
homosexuality. Years
later
when
my
OCD
start
to
get
out
of
control,
thats
when
it
became
an
issue.
My
obsessive
thoughts
kept
me
from
really
accepting
that
I
can
be
attracted
to
both
females
and
males.
It
didn't
help that
several
friends
and
family
members
are
very
opinionated
that
bisexuality
does
not
exsist/happen
(you
are
either
gay
or
straight).
Really
stressful
time
for
me
and
as
milagro5
mentioned
it
does
drive
you
nuts
to
keep
obsessing
about.
I
have
since
minimized
obsessing
about
it
and
hasn't
really
came
an
issue
until
just
recently. My
girlfriend
and
I
broke
up
back
in
January
mainly
because
of
my
OCD
but
one
in
particular
was
this
issue
of
"Obsessing about
being
Heterosexual".
It
came
up
in a
conversation i
had
with
a
friend
and
she
over
heard
it
thus
blowing
it
out
proportion.
I
guess
it
was
the
last
straw
in
her
dealing
with
my
OCD.
Oh
well,
it
was
for
the
best
as
the
relationship
was
falling
apart
for
some
time. Every
so
often
my OCD
mind does
try to
make
it
an
issue
and
an
obsession
where
i
have
to
question
every
relationship
i've had,
every
crush, every
feeling, etc....than
i
just
stop
myself
with
the
conclusion of
whether
i
regret
them
or
not. I
move
on
by
accepting
that
i
am
who
i
am.
Just
being
pure
obsessive
about
this
is
very
hard
at
times.
-------------------------------------------------------------- It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye. ~The Little Prince. Antoine de Saint-Exupery
