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new to this...would love suggestions on how to....
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By:
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effort_is_key
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Mood:
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Frustrated
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Date:
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Aug 20, 2012
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Background...Been
married
for
7
years
to
a
selfless
and
very
kind
man.
He
did
tell
me
he
had
some
mental
health
issues
before
we
married.
Many
of
these
issues
were
dismissed
because
of
the
stress
he
was
under
in
an
unhealthy
marriage
prior
to
us.
There
were
minor
OCD
symtoms
he
displayed
over
the
years
(calling
from
work
several
times
a
day,
checking
doors/locks/lights,
constantly
following
me
around
the
house,
constantly
trying
to
get
me
attention
if
I
am
trying
to
relax
and
read
or
watch
TV,
never
finishing
tasks,
etc)
but
nothing
that
wasn't
manageable
for
us.
About
a
year
ago,
I
started
to
notice
that
he
was
becoming
obsessed
with
sex.
We
already
had
sex
4-6x
a
week
(that
I
enjoyed
for
a
while
too).
I
can
barely
get
into
bed
before
he
is
already
asking
for
it.
Then
the
more
sex
we
had,
the
worse
he
got
obessed
with
it...and
wanting
more
of
it...thinking
about
it
all
day
etc.
I
used
to
joke
and
say
nothing
was
ever
enough..but
how
little
did
I
know
that
this
was
TRUE!
He
gets
really
upset
with
himself
when
he
turns
to
or
even
thinks
to
turn
to
porn.
I
am
completely
ok
with
using
porn,
but
he
isn't
due
to
religious
beliefs.
If
he
thinks
about
looking
it
up
on
his
phone,
he
will
obseesed
about
it
and
whether
he
does
it
or
not,
it
will
completely
ruin
his
day.
The
only
time
we
argue
is
when
he
wont
equally
do
his
part
problem
solving
an
issue
out
with
me.
He
has
always
let
me
have
the
upper
hand
on
decisions
with
financials
and
parenting,
but
recently
I
have
asked
him
to
help/be
more
involved
and
he
just
can't
do
it.
So,
a
couple
weeks
ago,
he
got
back
on
medication
and
started
therapy
for
OCD.
I
really
thought
this
would
help
but
it
has
only
worsened
everything
OCD-wise.
His
mood
is
depressing
and
all
he
can
talk
about
is
having
OCD
and
not
actually
figuring
out
what
he
can
do
to
help
himself.
His
therapist
said
that
I
may
be
giving
into
any/all
attempts
of
his
needs
in
reassurance
(the
calls
all
day,
answering
him
when
I
am
relaxing,
sex
daily,
solving
his
problems,
etc).
So,
until
I
meet
with
the
therapist
too...is
there
ANYONE
that
has
gone
through
this
(OCD-Spouse
or
OCD-sufferer)
that
could
give
me
some
tips
on
dealing
with
his
need
for
reassurance
and
sexual
obsessions?
Or
why
this
is
worse
after
seeking
help
than
before?
Am
I
even
supposed
to
have
sex
with
him?
or
does
that
give
in
too?
:(
Gosh...I'm
in
tears
(and
I
have
only
ever
cried
3
times
in
frustration
about
our
relationship!).</p> <p>To
throw
another
curve
ball
out
there..he
has
a
teenage
son
whom
we
have
been
trying
to
help
with
his
ADD
issues.
BOTH
MY
HUSBAND
AND
HIM
ARE
IDDENTICAL
in
every
way.
My
step-son
just
confided
in
me
about
his
worries
about
the
end
of
the
world
(in
which
he
talks
to
the
family
about
a
couple
times
a
week!
How
could
I
NOT
see
he
was
suffering
too?),
worries
about
death,
worrying
if
a
sibling
is
going
to
die
when
they
drive
away
and
can't
sleep
till
their
home
ETC...So,
now
we
have
an
appointment
for
him
too.
But
if
my
husband
is
ANY
indication
on
how
medication
and
therapy
work...I
don't
know
if
I
can
handle
it
with
out
a
mental
break
down. Please
help
me
:/
Thank
you!
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