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Who Can You Count On???

By: Mz3amPoet
Mood: Angry
Date: Jun 24, 2012
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I cannot talk to my husband about my OCD. It is a shame to be married to someone for 32 years and not be able to be completely open with them. We were watching TV this evening, and he was surfing through the channels. I'm not sure what channel he stopped on, but there was a documentary on about compulsive hair pulling, which I also suffer from. They mentioned the word 'trichotillomania' and he said, "is that what you have?". When I said yes, he wanted to argue with me and tell me I didn't have it. I reminded him I have been diagnosed with it as well as OCD and social anxiety. He then proceeded to piss me off by saying, "I don't understand why anybody would want to pull their own hair out. oh no, he did NOT just say that!!! I had to leave the room because I could feel my blood beginning to boil. I asked him what made him think I WANTED to pull my hair out. I am just saddened by the fact that I can't even talk to him about my disorders after all these years because he is so closed-minded and oppinionated about these kinds of things because he is so mentally stable and perfect and easy going and NORMAL!!! Plus, I am pissed off because he turned the channel, and I wanted to watch the documentary because I might learn some new techniques to combat the hair pulling. He told me I didn't need to watch it because I would only get more weird ideas and I already have enough of them. When I went to the bedroom and tried to find the show, I couldn't. I am just so irritated with him right now I could scream. Sorry for venting here, but I knew some of you would understand. I just feel so alone when things like this happen because I believe I should be able to share anything with him and be able to count on his support. Unfortunately, that is not always the case. :-(


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June 26, 2012, 10:34 am

I did suffer from this a long time.  (23 years)  It's bad.  But I'm now 99% cured.  I keep my hand busy with something else.  Now if it happens...once in 4-5 months I'm immediately aware of what's happening.  Then it stops immediately.  All I can say is that I understand 100%.  Take care.  Jerry



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From: jeneva5
June 25, 2012, 4:32 pm

That's really frustrating...especially coming from your husband of all people.  Do you think you guys would benefit if you set up a therapy appointment and you could explain it to him in a safe place where the therapist would also be able to help him try to understand?  Just a thought.  I'm sorry and I hope he comes around!



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From: Tracey
June 25, 2012, 3:12 pm

 I am sorry you are hurt but be patient with him.


My boyfriend of 6 yrs never believed i had OCD, he just kept saying i am weird. That hurts we eventually broke up but i never told my parents i have been diagnosed with OCD, which include skin picking. They are old fashioned and wont understand 


But please give your husband time to come around 



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June 25, 2012, 9:59 am

I know how you feel. My husband does the same thing to me. Any time a show would be on about OCD, he would say the same thing. That it was going to give me ideas and I would start having other problems. When I just wanted to watch it for the same reason that you said, that perhaps I would get some tips on things. And it was also nice to see other people struggling with similar problems. I feel so alone at times. It is hard enough to have to live with this dreaded thing, I just wish that sometimes people would lay off!



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From: chez
June 25, 2012, 9:57 am

That is really frustrating alot of people we are close to just don't understand or don't want to understand if only we could educate normal people on how OCD is and feels i tried with my dad no good he just tells me to get over it like yeah it's that easy so i tend to suffer in silence a bit which is no good.


 


I think OCD would be that little better to handle if we had support and understanding from our loved ones.


 



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From: jemily
June 25, 2012, 9:06 am

oh how frustrating for you. unfortunately i know how you feel. if i would complain about having to do an ocd ritual my husband would say "well,  just stop" or "you're doing this to yourself." gee thanks that really helps. lol. luckily he has become more understanding and never says just stop anymore. it's so hurtful when the people closest to us cannot be supportive. sometimes i think if i had a kind and compassionate partner i would have a better chance of being healed. when my husband makes snide comments about my ocd it only makes me feel worse and makes my ocd stronger. i am still hoping that "one day my prince will come" and sweep me away. lol.  :)  Jane


 



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