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OCD ?

By: Clcooney
Mood: Sad
Date: Jun 16, 2012
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I have been very sad lately. Amazing, because really I have such a good life with a loving and attentive husband who is a wonderful father to our three daughters. My girls, 16, 14, and 11 are all straight A students and all very good athletes. Although my life has been good, I was in an extreme happiness when my oldest daughter began dating a boy from another high school who is a little over a year older than her. The boy is extremely handsome , extremely intelligent , and also a terrific athlete. When they went to his junior prom together , they looked like a fairytale couple. They seemed inseparable, and I felt on top of the world. Now , the boy says that he has gotten into trouble with his parents for wrecking a new car that he was not supposed to be driving. He says that he is punished and can not see or communicate with her for the entire summer. He has had very little contact with her as he has told her that he can not text her. My daughter, unlike me, is extremely confident in herself and appears somewhat disappointed but continues on with a positive attitude . I, on the otherhand, am a mess. My thoughts are obsessive in that I cannot get them out of my mind. I find myself continuously wondering if he is being truthful , I wonder about their possible future together, I wonder if she will ever meet a boy I love for her as much as this boy, and i think about his family continuously . This preoccupies my thoughts almost entirely lately. How am I supposed to continue this way throughout the entire summer? Or God forbid if this is a permanent situation ? My stomach has been sick with anxiety and I feel like I can cry over the smallest thing lately. I am jumpy and can not concentrate . Is there anyone out there who has advice for me? Is this OCD?


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June 16, 2012, 4:18 pm

I can't say if you have OCD but it sounds to me like you are a loving, concerned mother. I think now that you have seen that this boy is not the vision of perfection you wanted for your daughter you are naturally concerned that she could be making a mistake by dating him.


The thing is is that she is 16 now and she sounds like she has a pretty good head on her shoulders. It sounds like you and your husband have done an excellent job at raising your girls and have instilled the right values in them. You have to trust her enough to make choices even if they may not be the right ones.


It's not easy being a parent. You just have to let her learn some lessons on her own. We have all kissed a few frogs but it helps us figure out what it is we really are looking for in a person. Some of us never find the right person. Nothing in life is certain. It's natural to want the very best for your kids.



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From: sdluna
June 16, 2012, 11:19 am

It sounds like OCD to me.  If it's really disrupting your life, which it sounds like it is, then I would recommend that you discuss it with a therapist.  Getting a diagnosis is the first step and will put your fears in context.  Good luck and keep in touch.



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From: Clcooney
June 16, 2012, 9:52 am
Thanks plep 001. I know you're right. Especially about her being so young. Appreciate the advice!

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From: plep001
June 16, 2012, 3:39 am

your daughter is still very young to be worrying about a long term relationship with this guy. It seems u like him more than yr daughter. sad that they can't be together over the summer if they are meant to be good freinds or more the summer will pass. and time will tell. I think you are worrying too mcuh about it. and hnece causing u unnecessary anxiety. All u can do is be there for yr daughter whenevr she needs u. End of day its not up to whether u like his bf or not. That would be for her to decide



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