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An important lesson
I
have
learned
something
today,
that
i
think
is
important
to
share
with
everyone.
In
the
last
couple
days
I
have
had
to
come
to
terms
with
certain
realities.
Some
of
the
realities,
i
didn't
want
to
accept.
I
think
this
is
where
many
men
and
women
relationships
get
tragically
ripped
apart,
and
all
that
is
left
over
of
a
great
friendship
is
just
tons
of
regret
and
hurt
feelings.
See
mechanincally
deep
in
your
heart
and
spirit,
the
human
being
knows
what
is
right
and
wrong.
We
all
have
passion
and
that
passion
manifest
in
our
life
as
desire-feelings-emotions.
Desire
is
the
wish
for
things
to
be
true.
feelings
are
how
we
feel
in
the
moment.
The
emotion
is
what
is
left
over
after
we
either
got
what
we
wanted
or
failed
to
get
what
we
wanted.
In
the
end
the
emotion
that
we
all
crave
for
is
joy,
but
instead
we
have
sadness
and
regret.
if
your
a
educated
person
or
compassionate
person,
over
time
you
will
come
to
understand
that
sadness
is
not
the
answer.
The
sadness
will
lead
to
frustration
and
anger
and
then
the
emotion
we
have
left
is
resentment.
It
is
a
powerful
thing
in
our
lives.
In
pagan
religion,
this
is
the
sacred
circle
of
life,
which
is
always
moving.
It
is
the
balance
between
the
four
elements
of
our
life.
also
it
is
the
balance
between
what
the
heart
desires
and
the
mind
says
is
not
possible.
For
me,
in
the
situation
with
Debra,
I
couldn't
let
go
becasue
I
promised
my
heart
to
her.
Even
though
she
didnot
promise
her
heart
to
me.
I
didn't
understand
that
in
my
mind.
In
my
mind
I
had
wroked
hard
and
did
all
the
right
things
to
do
to
show
her
that
I
loved
her.
So
in
my
crazy
mind
I
became
obsessive
with
trying
to
honor
my
promise
to
her,
even
though
she
made
no
promise
to
me.
I
think
that
is
why
I
knew
i
needed
to
talk
to
her.
My
mind
needed
to
hear
the
physical
words
that
she
had
made
a
commitment
to
someone
else.
I
have
come
to
understand
this
as
the
line
between
respect
and
honor.
As
a
friend,
i
didnot
want
her
to
stop
being
my
firend
simply
because
she
got
married.
But
i
need
to
learn
to
respect
the
boundary
that
she
is
married,
and
because
she
is
my
friend
I
have
to
repect
her
decision.
Although
my
desires
are
different.
I
don't
know
if
i
am
making
sense,
but
in
my
mind
i
understand
it
all,
but
in
reality
it
is
difficult
to
explain.
In
a
relationship,
it
is
important
to
set
up
boundaries
and
define
whatthose
boundaries
are
and
respect
them.
In
a
relationship
with
other
people,
that
boundary
is
between
their
freewill
and
your
freewill.
Just
because
you
love
someone
passionately,
does
not
garantee
you
will
be
together.
what
determines
that
is
both
of
your
compassion.
So
I
have
learned
in
the
last
couple
of
days
that
i
need
to
honor
my
friendship
to
Debra
and
let
her
live
herlife
and
do
whatshe
believes
will
make
her
happy,
and
to
be
there
for
when
life
weighs
her
down.
For
the
ocd
person,
this
is
where
you
can
get
into
trouble,
because
your
mind
at
the
moment
has
not
learned
where
those
boundaries
are.
I
know
to
be
a
good
friend
it
is
important
to
stay
in
touch,
like
Debra
said,
it
is
ok
to
corresspond
ocasionaly
once
or
twice
a
year,
but
it
is
obssessive
to
try
to
communicate
with
her
more
than
that.
I
have
come
to
understand
that
she
is
a
new
bride
and
still
sorting
out
her
place
in
her
relationship,
my
job
is
to
stand
aside
and
let
her
grow.
Then
you
see,
in
reality
we
are
meant
to
be
together.
Not
as
lovers
but
as
good
friends.
Which
in
the
heiarchy
of
friendships
is
at
the
same
level
as
lovers.
That
doesn't
mean
i
am
a
bad
friend
for
talking
with
her
less
frequently,
it
means
i
am
a
good
friend
because
i
respect
her
mind
and
heart.
When
it
comes
down
to
it
I
was
obssessed
with
being
a
good
friend.
However
I
didnot
know
how
to
administrate
that.
Then
i
lost
control.
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